My Story: Be Patient – Marta Schiavolin

 Each of us has, at some point of time in our lives, received life advice from our personal life-coaches – parents, siblings, teachers, mentors, kids, the vegetable vendor or the stranger sitting on the adjacent seat on the flight. Something that moved you, changed you or made a difference to your perspective forever. India Pages brings to you these slices of life, shared by people from all walks of life … Writers, Photographers, Artists, Television Producers, Hands-on mommies, Entrepreneurs and Engineers …. Meet Marta Schiavolin

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Going back to my “ordinary” life, however, turned out to be not so ordinary anymore

MyStory  When I first landed in India, I suddenly felt that something was soon going to change; I smelled it, I saw it, I heard it and touched it. The first advice I was given from India was: “ be patient”. At the post office, at the hospital, at the university, at the grocer’s, everywhere in India you have to be patient. Everyone’s taking his/her own time, so the only thing you need to do is be patient. This is also true in everyday life: you should never get angry for every little annoyance, rather be patient and be kind to everyone you meet as you really never know how difficult that day might have been for them, and…

This bring us to the second advice I received from India: “Smile!”. Every single man, woman, child in India smiles! One of the best thing Marta_Schiavolin_2  we can do in life is smile! Everyone needs it to fight the stress of daily life. Smile to everyone and you will get another one in return, or maybe two, and those two will generate a thousands more. Smiling causes a sort of chain reaction! So don’t forget to smile, even if your day has been a tough one, smile and you will see others do the same.

Another important advice India gave me was: be happy, even if you are not the richest person on earth! I saw many poor families smile and laugh. They were joyful even if they did not have anything. Be happy with the few beautiful things you have and life will be better.

Think of what makes you happy, smile and be joyful and…

…Colorful! European Countries are so grey. Everyone dresses up in black or grey, or other dull colors. Take Italy for example. People here thing of black as a very elegant color to be worn in many a occasion such a formal party, a romantic date, a business meeting or even a funeral! There really is no difference at all. People seem unable to express feelings with colors. India taught me that color is an essential part of one’s personality. Colors make me think of music: it changes according to one’s feelings. Colors should be used to express your inner self, instead in my country they are merely used to look a certain way.

Can you imagine a painter use just one color to paint the sunset? I think that is pretty limiting.

India also taught me what not to be.

My travels through India have also showed me what I never want to be. Most of the time, people in the streets showed me unkindness but I deeply believe that being kind to everyone is the best part of life: it gives you joy, happiness, serenity and gives gratitude and bliss to the ones you are being kind to and makes it easier for them to be kind to others. It becomes a sort of impulse, a compelling need to be what they never expected they could be.

I know that I could have learned many more things just by looking around me if I stayed a bit longer. Going back to my “ordinary” life, however, turned out to be not so ordinary anymore.

About Marta Schiavolin

Marta Schiavolin is an Italian Language Teacher and Translator based in Italy. In her own words: “I have always been fascinated by the power of languages to bring people together and to enrich one’s own personality, so I love learning new languages every day. I have lived in India for one year, there I studied Hindi, Ayurvedic nutrition and herbal medicine. I feel this journey has left an indelible mark on me and I have come back to Italy deeply changed and full of positive energy. I am sure I will go back to India one day soon”.

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