A plethora of speakers and self-help books will tell you why communication is very significant in our everyday lives but unfortunately, most of them fail to showcase the humane perspective on the art of communication. If you assumed that this art only belonged into the hands of selected few, that only great speakers, poets, teachers, thinkers, politicians, actors, leaders possessed the quality of communication. You are wrong!
Even the local vendor down your street sometimes is a better communicator than a fresh graduate from the university. Communication sees no boundaries, no gender, no economic eligibility; it is there free for you to acquire it. And the truth which is as certain as night and day are that no amount of education can replace for the experience, practise and close observation.
- Integrate positive self-talk and affirmations
Until the age of seven, our brain is a clean canvas, ready for assimilation. Therefore, whatever we experience and learn until we are seven years old, we form a very strong foundation of the pre-conceived notions in our sub-conscious mind based upon on our experiences. Communication is a skill that can be acquired effectively if we succeed in getting rid of our old thinking patterns clouded by pre-conceived notions. Self-affirmations have the power to re-programme your subconscious mind. If you keep saying something to yourself over and over again, you become that person day after day. Your brain will make you believe that you have become this confident communicator at your workplace, maybe at home with your spouse, with your date, with a large gathering of people that you are going to address. Visualizing yourself as a confident communicator can change your old dusty patterns of thinking.
- Record your own voice
In this way, you can listen to how you may sound to other people.
If you are talking too fast or slow, too loud or soft if your pronunciation needs improvisation or are unaware of where to pause and start a sentence and if your expressions in the sentence are in alignment with what you actually want to convey. Take out your smartphones whenever wherever start recording. Say anything you like. Just listen to your own voice. Would you like to listen to it over and over again? We know exactly how others sound when they talk to you; very rarely do we pay attention to how we sound to them.
- Study the qualities of the speaker you admire.
It can be a political figure, an actor or your friend. Watch them speak. Observe why their style or way of communication impacts you so much. What do you like about their way of communicating? Write down five points from their speech that you may want to integrate. One more scrupulous way is to actually talk to that person if accessible, and ask them their techniques.
- Listen well to speak well
Listening in this context doesn’t mean listening to mere words and sentences only, but also listening to things associated with overall communication. Listen to even the mutest and silent aspects that include signs, symbols, body language, and facial expressions, for pristine observation is necessary to avoid misunderstanding. You may be able to understand a specific language but often fail to read body language and facial expressions and check if they are in linear rail. Try reading and fathoming the emotion rather than only assimilating the linguistic message.
- Have clarity in your message
Use words that fit just right on point. Instead of using difficult jargons that people may not relate to and understand. Make sure there is some amount of clarity in your message. If you don’t have clarity in your own message, it is going to be a tedious task for the opposite person to understand what you intend to mean to them. Once you establish clarity with your own crafted message, use effective words to match your interest.
- Develop the art of being relatable.
No matter how prolific your dictionary or language is if you are not relatable, there is not much that is going to change in any conversation. Thinking from someone else’s perspective is also very important. Be humane and empathetic to the person talking even though at some point, you may witness differences. Being relatable avoids misconception.